Quite probably. Two problems with that. We live on a sailboat far from any lifestyle clubs; this introduces all kinds of logistics complexities in getting to the LS clubs. Sure, that's an "Us" problem. We've gone to LS clubs and meetups, but our experience has very much been that it's a hookup scene. We tend to be a bit more demisexual and want a connection with our fuckbuddies. Quality over quantity, ya know? We also tried a few LS sites and apps. Those have been attempted scam, photo-collectors, hookup scene, wannabe bulls/cuckqueens (no, I don't want to humiliate your husband while we fuck), or some combination of those.

We're willing to hold out to find exactly the dynamic we want and explicitly indicate in our LS profiles.