No, they are saying that you're diverting a conversation from who is correct to whether or not your interlocutor was rude to you as a waiver for disregarding the substance of what they said. You can disagree, but presenting yourself as having not been courted appropriately is not going to be taken seriously.

I do actually agree with you that they should speak more gently. Their current behavior is a maladaptive coping mechanism from being inundated with literally thousands and thousands of Redditors who say mostly the same things and won't flinch before likening them to a Nazi or something.

If you can be faithful to my position and at the same time make me look like a stupid baby you could very well convince me through shame to rethink my position.

Are you without shame? Can you not be compelled to change your behavior through the negative regard of others?

Are... are you pretending to stutter in the medium of text because you're too much of a zero to express yourself verbally?