Why not just use a gender-neutral word
Because it's not a gender-neutral problem. In a non-gendered language, an explicitly gendered term is generally used for strong emphasis. I'm sorry, I just don't know why insights about semantics in a gendered language are relevant in a discussion of a non-gendered language. It's not that it's not interesting, it is, I just don't know how to address it within this context. (Does german have the word "mansplaining" too? Or like, a term to describe a similar concept? Maybe we can 'borrow' that one off you guys too, compound words are so dang handy sometimes...)