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Hey dad, did having a newborn make you bitter towards your parents? (programming.dev)
submitted 1 year ago by to c/dadforaminute@lemmy.world
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I just had a kid of my own and I’m finding some feelings of resentment towards mom.

Like, there were some times where I didn’t receive the supervision I needed, or where I wasn’t taught certain life skills (because she was so busy with my siblings) and I just can’t imagine letting that happen with my baby.

Did you ever feel this way towards your parents when you had me? If so, how did you deal with it?

Thanks Pop.

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[–] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Well, you mention siblings, as in more than one. Our second child made our life four times as complicated. So I am sure it is exponential, so the third child would make life 8 times as hard. Just sayin', I am pretty sure our firstborn will sometimes later in life think the same.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Thank you for this insight (as we’re weighing whether to have another as well).

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago

    Well, to emphasize on that: your focus and what you can do for your children will suffer (for the first and the second). E.g. we don't read as much for the second as we did for the first. The first hears more often "I can't rn, the second needs my help".

    But I feel, as long as you get the core principles right, they compensate by learning about empathy, about being there for another constantly. And, more importantly, once we as parents are no more, they still have close family. That is the most most important thing for me and well worth the "price".

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