My sister and I are PKs. Our father is a closeted gay man who for some unfathomable reason gravitated toward increasingly conservative megachurches during our childhoods. We’re both queer atheists now, and our childhoods left us damaged, angry, and sad. Now he’s retired and half-out while our mom is bemusedly waiting for the other shoe to drop. The relationship is emotionally exhausting so we both moved far away to minimize contact. I have a great relationship with my in-laws and would love something similar with my parents, but I feel there is likely too much baggage to unpack.