I don't know how else to help or do anything. My friend Jaiden (24F) lives in another continent to me and was born there. We met on the Reddit sub r/raisedbynarcissists where she shared her story and we began to talk in the Reddit DMs. Eventually, we exchanged Discords, where we talk now.
Jaiden has ADHD, C-PTSD, autism, and BPD. According to her, she is also very poor and comes from a very traditional, homophobic, transphobic, family of Neo-Nazis who don't accept her identity as a trans lesbian.
She has a history of getting upset and lashing out, though it's less so now. She vents a lot and a lot of people also leave her or don't like her much. Someone once said "Jaiden's a little goofy but honestly she's been through so much."
I've been careful on what to say to her, since in the past, she has said it was abusive to call her goals unrealistic. She is a really ambitious person and her goals are stuff like this:
Be the best at every field
Be extremely beautiful
Be worshipped and loved
Be showered in free gifts
Be loved by people of all orientations and genders
Be really buff, strong, and famous (apparently her friends are famous or well-known)
She always talks about her goals and tended to used to lash out whenever I couldn't think of whether or not she could achieve her goals, so I said yes. She always asks me whether or not she can achieve this, but she does nothing to try to achieve them and just complains a lot.
Furthermore, all orientations can't be attracted to her (maybe they can). For example, she's a woman. Straight women and gay men wouldn't be attracted to her. She wants everyone in the WORLD to be attracted to her, which is an absolute impossible thing.
Her list is the following:
"- Game modding
- Game developing
- Programming
- Music production
- Learning multiple musical instruments
- Singing
- Sewing
- Graphic design
- 2D AND 3D animation
- Art
- Sound design
- Songwriting
- Fashion design
- Filmmaking and TV show creation
- Tech stuff
- Writing
- Activism
- Being a great politician
- Being a YouTube creator
- Being a great actress
- Being a great Twitch streamer/gamer
- Being a great comic artist
- Being a great photographer
- Learning multiple languages
- Cooking
- Being the best martial artist at kung fu, taekwondo, karate, judo, jiu-jitsu, and krav maga
- Being a great multi-sport athlete (specifically being a great bodybuilder, a great basketball player, a great American football player, a great real football player, a great boxer, a great volleyball player, a great track-and-field athlete, a great skateboarder, a great tennis player, a great runner, and more; but mostly bodybuilding and basketball)
- Becoming extremely strong and muscular, to elite levels.
- Having the most gigantic collection of everything (movies, music, games, literature, comics, toys, art pieces, weapons, etc...)"