No, I didn't.
The first link is the only one that's at all relevant. That data shows that the US spent more than China, but only in ODA (official development assistance) spending. As one of the sources for the China number notes, "the bulk of Chinese spending focused on other official flows (OOF), which is primarily intended for commercial projects, AidData said." It seems that the numbers provided exclude the bulk of China's massive BRI investments. Please note that you said, "Additionally, you know the US has been the world’s largest source of charity and investment in developing nations for decades, right?"
That source still shows the US ahead in the period from 2000 to 2014, but that data is pretty old at this point and the rate of China's investments has been growing, if I'm not mistaken. Either way, even if the US is narrowly ahead, it's a richer country and it's a much smaller fraction of the military budget compared to the same numbers for China, so my characterization of their approaches is still broadly accurate.
I have no idea what the second link is supposed to be showing.
The third link, as I addressed, is completely irrelevant.
I have no idea what the fourth link is supposed to be showing.