i mean, consider the following:

when i was a kid, the general societal narrative was that you're a man, you gotta be strong, you gotta not be so sensitive, certain things just have to get done, man up.

If you're exposed to that mentality 100% of the time, and you absorb it and live exactly by these rules, then certainly you would expect to be well-liked, having fulfilled all the rules and all, no? That is why people having that kind of toxic behavior always think they're well-liked: because they follow all the advise they were given when they grew up. so certainly, things must be alright for them, no?