It takes quite a bit of experience to accurately read a situation, especially if things are getting kinky

I've hosted things, where I basically wasn't playing because I was making sure that everyone else was safe (first and foremost) and enjoying themselves

I've seen inexperienced DMs either freak out, power trip or miss things

One of the easy ways to dip your toe into things is to attend a few munches and non-play events. You can get a feel for what it's like to start or join conversations with people in a sex-positive environment