Are you denying that totalitarianism exists?

Every country has at some point been called "totalitarian" by its detractors, and no country self-identifies as such. It's so imprecise and vague it's useless for serious discussion, especially when there are actual ideologies (that various governments claim, and that have some sort of useful definition) you can talk about instead.

The only thing it is useful for -- as others here have pointed out -- is clumsily equating fascism and communism because both systems exercise state power.

You gonna start telling us about the ubermench as well?

Come on lmao, the term means literally nothing, it can be applied to any state that holds a monopoly of violence and has only ever been historically used to try to paint socialist countries as being the same as the Nazi state (which itself is based off the American state)

All it does is flag you as a zionist sucker offer.

And I brought her up as the most famous example of the word being used was in defence of a Nazi that she was shagging.