Because "patriarchy" isn't just a neutral, ivory-tower descriptor of a system of gender roles. Just look at Twitter, or Reddit - the number of feminists using the word patriarchy on a daily basis to blame men far outnumber the tiny number of academic feminists that (supposedly) use the term without misandrist intent. Words' meanings are determined by their use, and going by its use, "patriarchy" is a misandrist term that is used to blame men for all of society's ills, which has resulted in demonstrable negative societal outcomes for men and boys. It's naive or disingenuous to act otherwise.

And even among more academic feminist circles, it's naive to think the term "patriarchy" isn't being used in a misandrist way by a significant percentage of feminists - radical feminism, just to target the low-hanging fruit, is entirely organized around mistaken and harmful ideas of "male supremacy", and as a result most of feminism's terminology is also entirely organized around men being the oppressor, and women being the oppressed.

This is where we get the real brilliance of feminist thought: "academic", "neutral" terms like "toxic masculinity" and "internalized misogyny" ensure that all discourse about society's ills are entirely framed around oppressor/oppressed language (where, of course, men are always the oppressors and women are always the oppressed), which, as discussed above, ensures that the public at large will blame men for literally anything that goes wrong. And, of course, this is exactly what we see on social media, from both men and women. It's a brilliantly designed system. Horrible, but brilliant.

The consequences of this inherently misandrist philosophy have been felt throughout society for decades. There are practically no domestic violence shelters or rape resources for men, even though men constitute almost half of rape victims. Men having lower rates of graduation from both high school and college (and of course all of the feminism-funded scholarships are for women, even though they're currently approaching 60% of graduates - gEnDeR eQuALiTy). Generations of boys having now grown up internalizing this misandry, being told that they're inherently aggressive rapists and being forced to take re-education classes. The results of this widespread, societal internalized misandry are clearly visible here in this thread.

And, of course, as mentioned above, the incredible brilliance of the system is that all of these failings (and countless, countless others) are conveniently deemed due to the totally neutral academic term "patriarchy", and not due to feminists pushing misandrist policy for decades that have had demonstrable negative outcomes for men. So, out here in the real world, men get blamed for women's problems, and they get blamed for their own problems as well.

Feminism doesn't have a monopoly on gender equality, as much as people claim it does ("If you believe in gender equality, you're a feminist whether you like it or not!"). Feminism is fundamentally built on decades of misandrist philosophical baggage, and it's time we threw it all out, burned the system down, and started over with a philosophy that's actually dedicated to gender equality, from the ground up.