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Fuck, i can't even cry when I need to.
I wish I could give you a hug. My husband is similar, he struggles with emotions and has always been "the calm rock." Everyone compliments him on his patience and temper, he is an extremely chill person to be around. Because of this, he struggles heavily with any time he does not fulfill that role. His self worth is tied to how much he can fix or do for others and in a non-bothersome way. We've been together for about 10 years and he's gotten more comfortable expressing his emotions but still feels immense shame when he cries or breaks down. Your last sentence is such a good point I've never really thought about. I should start paying more attention to how he needs and wants to express those emotions earlier. He's bottled and masked for so long I don't think he's ever been able to give different forms of expression a chance.
I'm sorry the people closest to you struggle to give you the space you need when things get overwhelming. Life isn't made to be easy, and you've worked hard for a long time. I hope you get some time for whatever you feel like now that the holidays are over.
I know how that feels, and I know a few more people of any gender who have been made that way.
I eventually gained it back, but it sometimes I still feel like I'm close to tears yet can't go there. Feels like a sneeze that doesn't come except more emotional.
That's one of the reasons why I love stories that make me cry. It's literally the only place where I'm able to do it and allows me to release some of the stress that way.
Have you tried old school country music?
Some of the modern stuff, but mostly stuff from 20-30 years ago that's just sad as fuck.
Just get in your own head and start thinking of past regrets and people who are gone.
Like, "having a good cry" honestly helps, so it's worth putting the work in to "learn" to cry. It's flushing out hormones and neurotransmitters, and can lower cortisol which has a whole bunch of benefits.
So maybe not country, but find some music that makes you emotional and start a straight up "crying playlist" to get you in that headspace. It'll get easier overtime
Yupp, have the same general problem. Although maybe not fitting to the stereotype of men and masculinity, I am also basically incapable of getting angry. The only responses I have to stress are shutdown and fawning, I think it (partially) stems from a combination of mostly absent father and an overwhelmed mother with a lot of unresolved mental health issues, that sadly wasn't able to properly handle children being normal children, lots of essentialist sentences about me being horrible still floating in my head from that childhood.
What helps me with anger is aggressive-depressive music. While that channels it just as a primal feeling, it's also a good stimming time. Crying is harder, though, although I had moments - some years back I was able to cry for over an hour while with my best friend, that really was a watershed moment in my life, but it unfortunately did not just make the underlying problems and blockade go away.
Other things that sometimes manage to tease anger and tears out of me is watching some true crime shit, or stuff like holocaust documentaries. Getting angry and disturbed for someone else comes a lot easier for me, but even there, the wall is high to climb.