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True love (lemmy.world)
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[–] 17 points 2 years ago* (7 children)

When they ask you like that…

just so we're clear here. When you ask someone to propose to you, you're asking them to propose to you, there's a place and a time for doing a haha funny this is actually not linear thought processing, for example you're in a car, i'm waiting for you to pick me up so i tell you "run me over when you see me" that would obviously be a joke.

you ask someone what their thoughts on marriage are, if you're curious what their thoughts on marriage are, the english language isn't hard. If you have to do it multiple times, maybe you should probably, idk, ask more forwardly.

to be clear OP is probably a bit of a dumbass, but to be clear, it's not their fault.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    Like that.. I mean in general when the topic of marriage is brought up in a circumstance that is not an obvious joke. And even when used as a joke it is something that should be taken as a queue to probe the subject... Verify that it's not a joke hiding more. Some people are dumbasses but also some people think it's hard to bring up the subject.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    I once had a girl randomly tell me she wasn't ready to get married. I was just like "uh, okay, I wasn't planning to ask you". What she really meant was she was cheating on me and wanted to break up.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 years ago

    like, i mean it might be hard to bring up, but i'm going to be bluntly honest here, probably don't bring it up if you don't feel ready or comfortable talking about it, you can always talk about the fact you're uncomfortable about it as well. That's another option.

    There's always a certain level of what i like to call conversational formality that one should apply. In the english language we use words like, the and ah an a i me, and various other words to help describe the specifics of what we're talking about.

    You can say something like "i have a blue backpack, it sits on that wall over there, there's something important inside"

    or you can say something like "blue bag, wall, important"

    they both convey roughly the same message, but the former has vastly more detail in it, and is substantially more comprehend-able.

    In the same way that you wouldn't say "blue bag" when referring to something specific, you shouldn't say "when are we getting married" in lieu of talking about marriage, it's just not formal, or respectful at all. Personally, i just ignore anything like that that people say, if they don't want me to know specifically what they're talking about it's not my problem, they can prod more, or simply do nothing about it. I could always ask, but again, wasn't my idea.

    i don't know why people dance around topics like this, maybe i'm just highly autistic or something, but it just pisses me off. It's almost like my time isn't worth utilizing to the point of having a real discussion, so instead we're having a meaningless conversation that doesn't have a defined start or end, with no expected results.

    for something like marriage it's literally as simple as "hey, so what do you think about marriage?" and you can go from there, which is even less confrontational than something like "when are you going to propose to me?"

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