Bi guy. In real life, I find vulva and penis beautiful and fascinating, as every inch of my partners' body, and I never saw ugly genitals.

What attracts me is a pretty face, a clear consent, and our sensuality when we're skin to skin. At this point, genitals don't change anything. (For penis, lenght or girth can make some positions easier or harder, but it's not a matter of attraction).

About shaven or unshaven, I prefer trimmed. I love giving oral sex, and it's less enjoyable when there's too much hair. If my partners prefer themselves shaved, I don't care. I understand there's a social pressure, and all I want is them to feel comfortable with their body.