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[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

So she was married? No judgement, but might explain why she didn't have time for you.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Lol, I put that last bit there without explanation for the shock value because the people seem to love this. But yes, we were all polyamorous. She was married, I had a girlfriend and a nesting partner, my girlfriend had a boyfriend who had a wife who wanted to date me (I declined because she practiced polyamory unethically), and my nesting partner had a girlfriend.

The woman I was interested in dating, I knew she didn't have a whole lot of free time...neither did I truth be told...but I turned her down not because she had other partners and a busy life but because of the way she responded to me. It was basically, "Um, how dare you cancel plans with me after I took an extra morning shift on the day of our date leaving you with only two hours and with you having to do all the driving for over two and a half hours during rush hour traffic!" She was so used to people falling all over her because of how attractive she was, and it was really off-putting.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Yeah I'm not so sure about your story now. This went from a normal girl who turned crazy once you rejected her to all of you I'm being in multiple relationships.

I understand the ope marriage and swingers thing, I don't think I get that polyamory thing.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

What does it change about their story at all?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

We were all in multiple relationships, I dunno what to tell you. It is common in polyamory. Having kitchen table polyamory as we did isn't uncommon either, though not necessarily the norm as more formerly monogamous people try on a pair of polyamory pants for themselves. They often decide that they'd rather not know who their partner is dating. As for me and mine, we enjoy sharing space with our metamours. Seeing my partners being romantic with their other partners makes my heart feel super happy. And the people I date tend to feel the same way when seeing me happy with my other partners. 😊

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

That's the great thing about interacting with other people, you don't HAVE to understand it. It's THEIR story, and although you may not be able to personally relate to parts of it, that doesn't make it any better or worse than before.