Before the war, we were preparing for our wedding, dreaming of a small home filled with love. But the war destroyed our dreams and scattered my family. Today, we face the challenges of life without shelter or work. We need your support, and every donation on GoFundMe can make a significant difference in our lives. Together, we can restore hope and rebuild our dreams. Thank you for your compassion. https://gofund.me/1222af19

Went through my mail that's been accumulating for too long and found a birthday card addressed to my deadname from my stepdad's parents. Which means that they haven't been updated that I've transitioned, despite publicly coming out on social media almost two years ago.

And if they care enough to send me a birthday card I would have come up in conversation at least once. They couldn't just give them an update on my name under such circumstances? Does my mom really expect me to personally tell everyone I tangentially know, but never really speak to, and have an in-depth conversation about gender-identity and why I've transitioned before she's willing to acknowledge my transness in front of them?

I have no real desire or intention of making them a major part of my life. I don't have their phone numbers, and I have not interacted with them in over two years. It is not my responsibility to update them. It is my mom's responsibility to refer to me as my proper identity when I'm not around.

I should not have to deal with this shit this far into my transition.

https://youtu.be/iO6Ta86wCDI?t=673

Even if that is just "politician talk" listen to how she answers the abortion question vs trans question

disgusting human being

In a small home that was once filled with warmth and joy, I lived with my family. We built it with our hard work and dedication, and despite its simplicity, it was everything to us—a witness to all the beautiful moments of our lives. But one day, as the golden sun was setting, the occupation forces arrived to shatter our dreams and destroy everything. They stormed into our home, broke our furniture, and destroyed our memories. Then the artillery came, and shells fell on our house until it was reduced to rubble.

Our lives changed completely that fateful day. We were forced to flee, searching for shelter to protect our children from the cold and fear. My children, who were used to playing and laughing, are now frightened by every explosion and plane in the sky. The dreams we once saw ahead of us were shattered, and our hopes for a better future have faded. Now, all we have left are memories that haunt us with an endless ache.

We launched a donation campaign on GoFundMe, hoping to rebuild our lives again. I hope our story touches your hearts and that you can extend a helping hand, whether by donating or sharing our story; every bit of support, no matter how small, means the world to us in our struggle to overcome this hardship. https://gofund.me/1222af19

This guide will go over the basics of how to circumvent reddit's ban system in order to bring more transgender and leftist people to the fediverse (which will be much safer for them). This guide is largely useful for other websites too, though the fediverse is more resilient to these methods due to the manual entry process on most sites.

Things you'll need to download:

• Tor Browser

• Mullvad Browser

• ProtonVPN (or a VPN of your choice, Proton is the best free VPN/email, the best paid VPN is probably Mullvad and can be hyper anonymous if you need it). It is suggested that you use a separate Proton account for your VPN than for your anonymous email. If you're super paranoid and breaking a lot of laws, you can have your TOR connection end with a VPN in order to mask your TOR traffic to reddit, but that is outside the scope of this guide.

What to think on to be effective:

• A target. Certain subreddits and communities may house more leftists and trans people.

• Contradictions. What are differences between the base of the community and the moderators? What are differences between the base of the community and the content on reddit?

What not to do:

• Do not change the base configuration of any of the browsers (besides a fully local editor such as Dark Reader), they're perfect as they are 💖

• Do not ever turn off the VPN while conducting activities.

• Do not ever access your Proton anonymous email without TOR Browser.

Steps:

1. You need an anonymous Proton mail account.

2. Open up Tor Browser.

3. Go to YOPmail. This is a temporary email site with new domains every day. Proton is vigilant about these services, so you may need to try different domains for your temp mail, such as in this table.

4. Go to proton.me in Tor Browser and sign up using the temp mail. If they block you, try a different domain until it sends an email to the temp mail.

5. Now that you have a Proton account, go to Proton Pass. As always, only access the Proton account with Tor Browser. Create a new email alias, you will be using aliases for any new reddit account you make.

• Caveat: Proton may ask for further verification by detecting that you used a temp mail after signup. Go to emailnator.com in TOR and get a temporary gmail address to use for receiving verification, then turn off the recovery option.

6. Open up Mullvad Browser and be sure your VPN is turned on. You can check if your IP is leaking on sites like ipleak.net.

• Q: Why Mullvad Browser? Its base configuration is good, and if you use private browsing, reddit will be incapable of building a fingerprint on you, which is the second way it can ban people via tracking. Be sure to save passwords in KeepassXC or a password manager of your choice. Reddit also blocks sign-ins from TOR Browser (due to its superior anonymity), but do not block VPNs, and Mullvad Browser is best used with VPNs.

7. Make a reddit account with your proton email alias. This should be fairly straightforward, sometimes reddit will ask for a lot of captchas. Do them, it'll work eventually. Go to your main proton inbox (in TOR browser) and handle the verification email.

8. Done! You are now ready to agitate for a leftist cause. Reddit communities and reddit itself often have a ban on participation until you reach a certain karma level or account age. The easiest way to bypass this is to go to a meme subreddit, find an old meme, and (lmao) repost it. You'll get thousands of upvotes immediately and easily bypass the spam filter. You can also make accounts in bulk in order to accrue time.

With good knowledge of macros, its even possible to set it up so that you can make accounts with one press of a button.

If any of you would like help or more information, do not hesitate to ask.

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The people who created this webring are associated with https://artemislena.eu/, which is a very popular alternative frontend/privacy site here on Hexbear and the rest of the fediverse. Be sure to take a look at the webring and add your own if you wish.

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I'd rather have a more honed argument than what I provided. I hate the arrogance and presumptiveness and bubble-world aspects of "don't say 'cis' because normal is just normal" style arguments so I'm seeing red here.

They mentioned going on stormfront for trans stuff

you know i had to do it to em

please do not dox yourself and post your actual names please thanks

i can do trans masc/nb names too but i don't feel super qualified to rate them

Look right, I like a lot of things about the foundational 2007 text Whipping Girl by Julia Serano. But if you've ever been told to read this book without any qualifiers, I'd like to apologise on behalf of the trans community.

Obviously the concepts of traditional and oppositional sexism, the idea of transmisogyny, Serano's analysis of media depictions of trans women, and more are all superb and well worthy of praise. However, Serano is a land of contrasts, as AcidSmiley so concisely put it. She's read both Leslie Feinberg and Kate Bornstein's works, and writes this extremely salient quote:

We must also stop pretending that there are essential differences between women and men. This begins with the acknowledgement that there are exceptions to every gender rule and stereotype, and this simply stated fact disproves all gender theories that purport that female and male are mutually exclusive categories.

Despite all that, Serano has a perspective that's utterly mired in exorsexist* binary-only assumptions, with language to match. On own, describing someone taking estrogen as "hormonally female" or her body prior to hormone replacement therapy as "physically male" would be unpleasantly cisnormative, but just that. I respect fully that the intent of this book is to analyse the ins and outs of being trans in the gender binary, and so the text is focused in that direction. When Serano writes goofy shit like "mtf spectrum" though, you wonder if she wouldn't be better served by thinking a little outside of the two-genders box.

She doesn't want to, though; Julia Serano circa 2007 (the text has not been meaningfully updated to my knowledge) is a brave warrior going against the grain of non binary domination :citation to defend our poor, repressed binary genders. She's taking down those woke non-binary moralists from their ivory towers:

There are many different (but often overlapping) forms of gender entitlement and gender anxiety. For example, one of the most frequently discussed forms of gender entitlement is heterosexism, the belief that heterosexuality is the only "natural," legitimate, or morally acceptable form of sexual desire. Heterosexist gender entitlement ean lead to homophobia, which is an expression of gender anxiety directed against those people who engage in same-sex relationships. Similarly, the gender-entitled belief that all women are (or should be) feminine and men masculine-which some have called cisgenderism-gives rise to transphobia, a gender anxiety that is directed against people who fall outside of those norms. While homophobia and transphobia have both received mainstream attention, thinking in terms of gender entitlement and gender anxiety also allows us to consider less well- known (but just as disparaging) forms of gender and sexual discrimination. For example, many gays and lesbians who believe that all people are "naturally" either homosexual or heterosexual often express biphobia, a gender anxiety directed toward bisexual people because they challenge the presumption that people can only be attracted to one sex or the other. I have also met some people in the transgender community who feel that identifying outside of the male/female binary is superior to, or more enlightened than, identifying within it. Such people often express gender anxiety (binary- phobia?) at people who identify strongly as either female or male.

I would be laughing if I weren't actually really mad about this classic, foundational transfeminist text featuring tons of brainworms about anyone outside the binary. It's a punchline, the phrase "binary-phobia" is perfect to sit right next to "heterophobia" or "cisphobia". It's right up there alongside white westerners claiming to be victims of racism when someone calls them a cracker, even. It should be plainly self-evident how ridiculous a claim this is. I want to ask Serano circa 2007 to tell me which genders have legal recognition - binary or non-binary ones?

It is truly incredible that a woman can write so sharply about the cultural/societal hedgemony of cis gender and heterosexuality, about how the concept of anything being inherently gendered is antithetical to feminism, and then turn around and write a deeply unserious aside about how non-binary people are apparently smug moralists commiting discrimination against people of binary gender due to the same gender anxiety**--in itself a smart concept about how queer people disrupt assumed gender/sexual normality--that drives cis people to be transphobes!! I am for real left somewhat speechless.

I don't think Whipping Girl is a book nobody should read, obviously. But I scoured the bearsite to see if anyone had dome criticism of or even qualified their recommendation of Whipping Girl, and I found nothing. Part of me wonders if anyone has made a concerted criticism of this book before, but surely someone has before me. I yap exclusively for your benefit! I wonder if Sexed Up or Excluded are better, but frankly I'm just disappointed and angry. Truly a joke.

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*Exorsexist, I learned today, is discrimination against people outside the gender binary!

**Serano describes gender anxiety as "the act of becoming irrationally upset or being made uncomfortable by the existence of those people who challenge or bring into question one's gender entitlement." In turn, she describes gender entitlement being "an arrogant conviction that one's own beliefs, perceptions, and assumptions regarding gender and sexuality are more valid than those of other people". She is more or less insinuating that non-binary people are befuddled supremacists who cannot stand... adherence to the gender binary. Cool.

Final Fantasy XI

Final Fantasy XI is the eleventh numbered installment in the… Okay, you know what it is, I’m just going to tell you about one of the storylines!

During the Wings of the Goddess expansion, adventurers will be sent back in time to experience the events of the Crystal War, a cataclysmic event that is the foundation for conflicts of the modern-day timeline. Should an adventurer choose to serve the Kingdom of San d’Oria, they will be immersed in the story of the Young Griffons—a group of children who would see themselves knights, many of whom grow into prominent characters later in life.

Among the Young Griffons, the player will find Bistillot, a shy boy who doesn’t like to be seen. With his penchant for engineering, shy demeanor, and lack of combat potential, Bistillot prefers to spend his time inside of an orcish war machine that he was able to repair to working condition.

He is often seen before he is heard, with his signature phrase, “HAAAALLOOOOOOOOO” being used to hail the adventurer. Through the course of the story, Bistillot finds his way, even contributing to the war effort with his engineering skills.

However, when another member of the Young Griffons is kidnapped and taken to the present day, the adventurer must return to the present day and reunite with the Young Griffons’ present selves! The adventurer’s first contact in the present day is Bistillot. When the adventurer hears the signature “HAAAALLOOOOOOO,” Bistillot approaches the player, but what the player sees is… a woman?? She introduces herself as Bostilette, a “friend of Bistillot.”

After the rescue mission, Bostilette comes clean. She is, of course, the very same Bistillot who was a little boy twenty years earlier. She explains that she was very sick as a baby, so her parents gave her a boy’s name so that she would be stronger and survive the illness. Once she overcame the illness, she was comfortable to reclaim her name and gender. Well, that closes the book on that story, except… I’ve decided that’s bullshit!

I have unilaterally decided that Bostilette is trans, the sickness she had was dysphoria, she stayed in the orcish war machine because she was an egg, and I hope you all agree!

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Where the guy says "no man can kill me" and she takes off her helmet and says "I am no man" and he implodes out of respect to her pronouns. Always loved that scene.

Went to get some last minute groceries, wasn't particularly concerned about passing, but wore a mask because I wanted to give my face a break for the weekend. I get out of my car and some corn fed yokel 14 year olds run past me while loudly have a conversation about 'what is it?!'. They go back and forth on if I'm a girl or boy, I can't remember the exact details of the conversation because the girl in the group answered the two boys with something that shut my brain down. She said "that's a Democrat"...

I'm still having trouble processing the whole thing.

don't fucking lecture me by saying that i "don't need others to validate me since i'm already a woman" or that "i don't ACTUALLY need others to validate/affirm me, i can do it myself".

like yes i can do that but it fucking hits different when someone else says that. especially if it's someone close to you.

but apparently it's too hard for some people to tell a trans woman in need that they'll "always be a woman". even if you explicitly fucking request that. even if that someone is your partner who also happens to be a trans woman.

apparently according to her i don't need anyone else "to tell me that" because "i'm already a woman"

i hate this constant dismissal of what i need. just tell me what i want and i'll get out of your fucking way.

makes me wonder what's the point of having friends/partners even is when you can't even depend on rely on others and ALWAYS GOTTA FUCKING DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF to get what you want