I originally had it downvoted, but you’re right, they aren’t being directly disrespectful. Besides, saying it was a touching love story first and foremost is evidence enough that OP isn’t an asshole, just a human with human opinions. I apologize, and have rescinded my previous judgement.

That is awesome, and so rare in online discourse. I really appreciate that.

I’m all for having your own opinions, but if a same sex couple being romantic grosses you out while a heterosexual couple doesn’t, that feels like something you should do some soul searching over lol. OP might be a great person irl, but I do think it’s important to recognize your own shortcomings and address them where possible.

You kind of lose me here. I think it's not my place to judge someone whether they like or don't like observing homosexuality. If they're respectful, and show tolerance and acceptance, then whether they like it is not really my concern. It's certainly not my place to judge whether they have 'soul searching' to do. I agree that saying it gives them the "heebie jeebies" isn't the most respectful way to say they don't care for it, but on the scale of ways to put that, it's way, way down towards the harmless end. In my opinion it certainly wasn't egregious enough to warrant the absolute avalanche of downvotes and judgement that person was getting.

You're already showing incredible empathy and the ability to be self-reflecting. I encourage you to stop judging others for saying they don't like the things you think they should like. Instead, we should hold each other to the standard that we are respectful and tolerant of others whether we like what they're saying and doing or not. Unless, of course, that tolerance is of those who express intolerance, but then we're squarely in Paradox of Tolerance territory and that's a whole other thing.

Character arc, the good ending lol

Getting the “heebie jeebies” from watching 2 dudes kiss is a red flag

Eh.. I regularly watch gay porn and have no trouble seeing guys suck dick and fuck eachother but I skip past the kissing scenes because I just don't like it at all. I genuinely can't explain why.

I wouldn't say innate, that makes it sound like humans are born homophobes.

Unavoidable when you're raised in a homophobic society and something to improve.

I don't disagree and I'm not trying to shame or put anyone down, my point is just that it's productive and enlightening to learn these things about ourselves when we can. For me at least, it helps me improve in areas I find myself lacking, and meet other people where they are when they see things differently than I do.

Well said. I think it's important to analyze your own prejudices so you can grow as a person; but so long as you accept that they are your own personal views and, most importantly, remain respectful of others, it's not doing any real harm

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