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this is either cursed or incredibly handy
once i've had my surgery i might try this out (after it's all healed and well of course!)
Oh that's actually the main contraindication. Even healed scar tissue is basically always slightly weaker than normal skin (it'll even reopen years later if you suddenly have a severe vitamin c deficiency) and in this case could cause a fistula.
Ugh, cis privilege strikes again! /j
(I know, it's not per se a privilege, but damn, there goes my chance to do a funny :( )
I mean it is but it's also a privilege (perk is maybe a better term contextually) that gets lost by women who have had to have some kind of significant repair. I would think the main risk factor there is childbirth so it's likely they outnumber you demographically. You also can ask your surgeon, there's a possibility that what you're specifically having done is less risky or has become more robust since I last read up on this.
I'm blanking a bit on this. Wdym, they outnumber me demographically? I mean yes, there are more people w/ a vagina who gave birth than trans women w/ a vagina, but what relevance does that have in this regard? That there's more research on the former than on the latter?
Not a cis privilege. It's a "women who haven't had vaginal surgery" privilege, of which trans women are likely a small portion.
Ahh, fair point. I intend on getting a self-lubricating vagina and an orchiectomy (necessary too if uterus transplants were to be opened up to trans gals too!), not sure if that would change anything. Maybe there are more advanced methods nowadays.
I keep telling Penn state they can have mine but I think they've put the program on hold until the US gets a fucking grip on the whole abortion thing. Fertility treatments as a whole can result in some seriously high risk pregnancies and idt any of the doctors involved want to get stuck caring for a woman they doomed by helping get pregnant with a pregnancy that's now going to kill her and there's nothing more they can do about it.
Well, I don't know how to read that comment - but I don't care what one thinks these doctors would think - I care that we combat fascism. I want abortion to be accessible for everyone and for me as a trans woman to be able to actually get pregnant, thanks. My body, my own decision.
Why can people be antivaxxers and die due to not vaccinating, but I cannot get pregnant and carry with a safe, extant protocol? It's outrageously unfair, and should be the other way around.