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Love and respect to trans comrades, but it's fine to be a cis (and even straight!) dude and a decent person too. I sometimes get this as a relatively big burly looking man even. Having a healthy expression of emotion, not taking part in traditionally "masculine" activities, and God forbid having any pink in my wardrobe doesn't make me a woman though lmao. For what it's worth I'm philosophically an anti-realist about gender and just don't concern myself with expressing or behaving in line with any particular norms - but that's from a place of privilege as I'm fine with being perceived and treated like a man most of the time. Doesn't stop my trans/queer friends from projecting from time to time, which is normal. We want to see ourselves in the people we enjoy and that's just part of human psychology. They'll make "in" jokes with me and both expect/want me to laugh along, and certainly haven't given up flirting with me despite my polite and good humored disinterest. Go figure- because empathy isn't actually a gendered phenomenon cis guys can understand experiences outside of their own, despite so much evidence to the contrary in the general population lol. I can love and respect and even relate to them and their experiences without having experienced it myself.

There's nothing wrong if in however much time you look back on this and laugh because the egg accusations were real or anything, but as one comfortably if not "traditionally" cis guys to a self-professed other, I want to say you're valid too lol. The kind folks you're interacting with are doing what they wish had been done for them, and that's super sweet. In my experience, they probably won't stop no matter how many times you politely dismiss it, and that's fine too. It doesn't bother me and they, I think, feel reassured in themselves by continuing to offer. All is well.