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Coming out stories? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago

I came out almost immediately for a couple reasons:

  • my mental health was total garbage and boymoding was literally unbearable

  • I knew that most of my friends and family were pretty accepting and open minded

  • I lived in a very diverse and accepting city at the time

  • this was during the height of Covid restrictions so nobody was going out anyway

Basically the discomfort of hiding my true self overrode the fear of being openly and visibly trans lol

Fortunately everyone I came out to was really positive about it. I was prepared to cut out a few of my extended family members if it came to that, but thankfully I didn’t need to

The only thing I wish could have gone differently is that I stayed in the closet at work. I had some problematic coworkers so I didn’t feel safe being openly trans there. Unsurprisingly I didn’t last long at that job lol