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it was around 1am and i was trying to sleep, and suddenly i thought “what if i get back with my ex from sixth grade?” (i’m still friends with her)

i started to get a warm and fuzzy feeling, so i was like “ruh oh raggy… i can’t get another crush again…”

she’s straight now, and my tired brain decided it was one of those things where i’d understand if she said no and continue to be her friend but would be like “yeah, why not” if we dated 🤷‍♀️

i thought that even if i was an immature ass at 12, i could be better and we could try again now.

however, when i woke up, my feelings completely vanished and i had no desire to date her at all.

My girlfriend (22) and I (F23) have been friends since I was eighteen and moved to the U.S. when she was my neighbor. It’s been almost six years since our friendship, and I’ve been into her for quite a while.

We’ve only been on a few dates, but since we’ve been long-time friends, I trust that this relationship will last. By May or June, we’ll have dated for about 3-4 months (but like I said, I’ve known her for far longer). I’ll be 24 by then, and hopefully she’ll be my fiancée.

Before then, I’m staying at her house for a while to see what it’s like before I move in.

@lesbians You wanna get something done, get a #lesbian.

huh? why is everybody here so gosh darn adorable?

(Don’t take this seriously, I’m just being silly)

I would have to say honestly, like 4 because there’s some very gorgeous women and I have a girlfriend but I do have a male preference. (Hope I’m still allowed here)

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22189318

(figured more people would give advice/relate because it’s a lesbian community [“the idk how women like men romantically” part] and also because i don’t see any comments/nor do i think the other community i posted in was good for breakup advice/rants.)

(im going to say that im a lesbian, first off, and maybe i just feel this way about relationships with men because i’m in a bad spot, or in other words, pissed.)

part of the reason i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years was because i figured out im a lesbian and couldn’t see myself dating nor attracted to a man.

the other part? he wasn’t there for me as of recent.

he was pansexual and i was a gay/bi trans guy. i met him through a friend, and he lost contact with the friend sometime after he met me and only we talked (our only mutual friend after that was some VERY controversial guy from tiktok but due to said controversy, we stopped being in contact with him and he blocked us).

a lot of the new friends we made on his discord server started to make silly jokes about us, like “get a room you two!” or “are you sure you guys aren’t dating?” it was very casual, i had feelings for him so i was just like “ if he wants to 🤷‍♀️” and he replied with “yeah ok why not :)”

so after that, we were a couple. we talked a lot as friends, we talked a lot as boyfriends. then i got a girlfriend (the deal was that we could date if we knew about the people, and he knew about my gf). we broke up the first time and she acted really cruel (saying i abused/assaulted her, either acted this way because i was a guy or because i was trans. maybe both). this made me feel terrible for MONTHS due to having bad-ish attachment issues.

i detransitioned after that, since the very thought of being a man reminded me of our relationship/breakup.

he, however, was there for me during it. at least, when he could be.

there would be periods that would last several weeks where i would hear nothing from him. even when i would see he read my messages and posted on social media, he would not respond to my messages. ever.

then he would be like, “sorry, i was at work” or “sorry, i was staying at someone’s house for a while”. i was quite forgiving and was honestly just worried about him.

then, it happened more frequently, again and again. he would hardly say he loved me or show any affection. my “friend” told me this was normal in relationships and thought i was crazy for thinking otherwise.

sometimes, he would say he loved me and actually be there for me, but he recently started leaving me on read again. i broke up with him and decided i was a lesbian since i kind of lost feelings and couldn’t see myself with a man or even attracted to one.

[so, im still kind of pissed at him, confused about my attraction a little, and at a rocky relationship with my “friend” and girlfriend.]

(sorry, mods, ik i’m talking about a straight relationship but im a lesbian now so im posting here)

she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

We ate lunch again, I ate pork. It was so awesome. 🌺

So I’ve liked my neighbor and good friend Jasmine
for a while. Plus, she was born in 02 and I 01, so we’re only a year apart, AND we both speak English and Spanish! (She’s Latina and I grew up in a Spanish-speaking area with Spanish as one of my native languages).

Anyway, I was able to tell her I liked her and yesterday, we went out for lunch. She told me she was interested in me too but was waiting for me to make a move. She said she was willing to give dating a try, and even kissed my cheek after we left to go home.

I’m bi/omniromantic but preferred men and identified as “mostly straight”/Kinsey 1-2. I also questioned being straight for a while, but I certainly have no doubts after this! 🙂😊

@lesbians #lesbian

Hello, I'm Voytek.

I'm non-binary and technically sapphic (pan), IDK if I count but here I am!!

Also, would it be ok to post updates on my (male) crush?? :)

Well I told y'all about the coworker that I might be crushing on. She dropped today in a conversation that she has a boyfriend and I feel crushed. I think I'm gonna befriend her anyways because I'm mostly ace so differentiating between crush and friendly affection is not that easy for me and we vibe really well after all. I'm like an excited puppy around a bunch of people anyways and most of them I don't have any romantic feelings for so who knows, I might just be generally happy around her without romance involved anyways.

Gals I'm in trouble. Some co-workers and I went to a sporty after work event on Friday and one of them i really vibe well with.

So anyways as a bunch of people start to leave we kinda move to the side as our muscles are also done for the day and get into some deep talk about some worries that have been plaguing her.

At some point we both kinda move to go so we get moving into the changing rooms while taking the whole time. At some point I compliment her charisma and she thanks me in a cute shy tone (you never see her being shy at work). We move out and know that we won't be taking the same train. Her's actually just moves in to the station and she ignores it kinda and just keeps walking with me to a later station as my train doesn't drive from that location.

The talk moves to me as well and my deeper problems and motivations and what not. Anyways as we get to the stop both our trains depart from we keep talking while waiting.

As my train is like a minute from arriving she does a thing that I kept thinking about the whole weekend: she asks really shyly if it is ok with me if she also hops into my train for the 2 stops until our lines split. Idk I could see and feel from her voice how she didn't want our talk to end and my heart just melted. She hopped into my train for the 2 stops and then got out as planned as she had a later meetup with a friend of hers that was already planned way in advance.

Idk I'm sure I'm overthinking things and also I keep hearing how you're not supposed to date people from your workplace.. but I felt drawn to her from the moment we met for the first time and her going out of her way to spend more time with me makes me quite giddy right now 😖

Idk I kinda needed to share this with y'all

:3

Hi lezzies!

I am a new-ish lesbian, just realized 1.5 years ago.

How goes it? And how has there not already been a lezzy group here? On the queerest instance I know?