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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago (2 children)

CW: Talking about top/bottom surgery29 hours until I have to be at the hospital for my surgery. Losing my mind. Just as excited for this as I was for bottom surgery a couple years ago. Finally will get my lopsided tits fixed. Gods know I always wanted large breasts even before my egg cracked. They're big enough as is, but now they're going to be BEEG. Can't wait.

That being said, I'm also getting a minor revision to my bottom surgery. I'm looking forward to that because that, too, somehow got lopsided >w>

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I think I sing as a stim. It really clears the brain out, not much else to focus on when you are. I tend to get riffs or lines stuck in my brain anyway, like the chorus line to Baron Saturday... I'm definitely not any good at it at all, I'm just some nerd plus I never took voice training very seriously, but also my singing is definitely a blessing to these walls and anyone who hears it.

I'm probably "best" at old Who songs and 1970s Golden Earring stuff like that, but I most enjoy trying to do KT Tunstall (even if I could never pull the high notes on Other Side of the World) or 70s era Heart tunes. Maybe this is why I really dig low smoky femme vocals, Idk.

Just belting random things out 24/7, absolutely breaking into song for no reason at the drop of a hat. It's more productive than a picking stim!!! (My throat hurts ow)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There's a really good music theory book called The Harmonic Experience by W.A Mathieu. It's a text book kinda about the contrasts between Western music and tradition eastern styles like Raga or Maqmat, specifically how Just Intonation works. He explains music theory using history and the actual math and physics regarding how vibrations become harmonies. For example; to have a piano that is tuned for Raga or Maqam music, you would need around 36 keys per octave. A regular piano is 12 keys per octave. We landed on 12, equally spaced, keys because they're "close enough" for our ears to bridge the gap.

Anyhow, the first half of the book has singing exercises for ear training. It's a really good music theory foundation and not too difficult to work through, if you're interested. I 10/10 recommend.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

aaaaa music theory jumpscare catgirl-huh

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Good stim!!!!! catgirl-heart

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

mental health improvement?One of the things I realized recently about my depression improving that I hadn't really made note of until it hit me the other day was that I'm singing and humming to myself sometimes when I'm alone for the first time in ages? I'm not a good singer and it can be frustrating having a fairly small range and my pitch control is a lot worse than my ear so I'm acutely aware of how bad at it I am lol but it's been kinda nice? I was singing "Smoking Section" by St. Vincent in the shower the other night and stopped for a sec like "wait wtf, I'm singing to myself?? What is going on??" tucker-catboy catgirl-huh

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

FUCK YEAH MASSEDUCTION MOMENT lets-fucking-go Uh it rules I recommend singing loudly and badly as much as possible honestly.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I don't know if this counts as news, since there's no ruling yet, but this case is probably worth paying attention to, especially for our UK comrades. cw for transphobia.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago (2 children)

going to ruin Thanksgiving this year by being a trans woman, getting drunk, and then screaming about how this holiday is a celebration of genocide and that we're currently on the stolen land of the Notdoxxingmyself people

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

Sounds like a great way to ruin Thanksgiving. Would be fun to be there!

Fortunately it should be a small immediate family thing for us this year.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

spoileri had ^sex^ with a very cool and beautiful person who made me hyperflush

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I haven’t gone swimming in years.
I used to love swimming.
I wish I could do it without worrying about how I look or body image issues or other people.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've used tuck tape! It worked really really good. Dunno if you'd, specifically, go for it but there are lgbt only swim nights in some cities. My friends do that, don't even tuck for it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago

It’s not as much the penis as much as other things

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago

I pretty dramatically put my fists on my hips earlier today and oh wow they actually kind of hurt? holy shit are they doing what I think they are?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago

Do they make shark plushies that are like 6 feet long? Can't find any on aliexpress

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago

holidays, family, wistfulI can't stand spending time with my family. They're hateful miserable people, just awful to be around and reactionary as fuck and during the holidays their bullshit is dialed up to max. When I came out, I decided to cut them off. I didn't want to hear their hateful opinions about me or my transition. I didn't want to give them the chance to hurt me again.

And I'm overall happy with that decision. But now the holidays remind me how small my world really is. I don't want to be around mine but I do wish I had a caring family to spend time with. One that loves and appreciates me for who I am.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I got gendered correctly today. Had someone calling out "sir, sir", trying to ask me for directions. I turn to face them, and they look confused. "Sir, Ma'am, I can't tell with the mask on". I took my shot, put on my best fem voice. I had mastered the talk-no-jutsu, my voice training was about to pay off. I looked at the person, and proceeded to ignore most of the training, just changing pitch and speaking more softly. It still worked, I got called ma'am. They later apologized for getting it wrong, and I just said no worries. No eyebows. No stare. No disgust.

I've done it, I've won :keikaku:

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[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 days ago (5 children)

I stood up for myself and my gender for the first time today. A friend kept degendering me and I asked him not to.

Kind of a small thing but I feel proud of myself since I've always had a poor self esteem

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago (3 children)

My package got seized, fucking transphobic customs

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 days ago

Uhhhhhhhhh I'm going thrifting with a couple of friends in 20 mins and one of those friends offered to help me with my hair and also I finally heard back from the place I was trying to get HRT at and they're calling me later this week to officially get me on the schedule.

It's a good day in gender town

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago

been going to a lot more concerts/shows since transitioning, turns out dressing up and going out can actually be fun lol

partner found a really cool artist. i've been listening to them and it turns out they're anti-cop, anti-monarchy, sang at a pro-palestine protest AND has a show in my city this Friday??

we bought some tickets and i really want to try to make some friends this time but idfk how ohnoes

[–] [email protected] 20 points 3 days ago

So I was a little worried that I wouldn't actually be happy after moving and that it was all just my own brainworms that I'd never be able to get rid of...

I was wrong. I'm actually feeling genuinely happier about life and at least somewhat hopeful about the future. I like the new job, new location is better than I imagined, and I'm making plans to start socializing IRL for the first time in ages. Everything seems to be going well and it kind of scares me a little, but I can't go through life just being worried all the time I suppose.

Also makes me happy that people are posting cute stuff in /c/cute :D I honestly wasn't sure people would be into it but at least some are. I need to keep finding new cute stuff to post to keep the cute train moving forward though.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I saw my mom for the first time in a few months today, and she asked me if I'm aware I'm starting to look just like her and that seeing me was basically like seeing herself catgirl-huh

Officially in the estrogen making you look like your mom gang

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

The image didn't upload for some reason, and I am also still unable to upload images :( Just imagine two cartoon lesbians cuddling please

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

I see the vision rat-salute

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

thats weird I was already imagining that for some reason

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