I think both honestly, the patriarchy teaches men that they need to extract attention, love and sex from women, and that women's rejection or coldness is just a part of the game, so it makes sense that fair amount of them think what they're doing is okay and enjoyable for women, at the same time there's definitely a lot of men that get off to making women feel like shit, personally i feel like the first ones could be saved and reeducated, the second ones tho just need to be done away with