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[–] [email protected] 105 points 1 week ago (6 children)

So everyone here is saying fuck anon and I agree, but I agree because they are aware of it and intentionally doing things on purpose to exacerbate the situation.

But like, if you're a physically larger dude (maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin), and you've got to walk behind a woman at 2am.. it's just a shitty situation for both people, where both of you feel like you have to do something you shouldn't have to do (women feeling the need to run, defend themselves, or cry for help, and men feeling the need to change their route, stand around and wait until she leaves, or do something awkward and potentially more scary like announce their presence).

I'm definitely not advocating for women to be less cautious on the streets at night or anything like that at all, it's an unfortunate reality that they need to stay vigilant and aware to remain safe. It just really sucks that the way it comes across a lot of the time does little to protect anyone from any actual harm, and just makes normal people feel like shit for making someone feel like they're about to get raped.

[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 week ago (2 children)

As a physically large man who used to work a job that meant he was walking home late at night in the city, just cross the road to overtake. If you're walking that much faster than the other person, you will overtake pretty soon.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Shit, I cross the road to overtake because I'm a smoker and don't want to inconvenience non-smokers with my addiction. Never even crossed my mind that may make people feel safer.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thank you. As that vice gets rarer, the impact on other of the smell is worse and worse. It’s not my business if you choose that vice but I appreciate any effort not to inflict it on the rest of us

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm crossing the street because weed is illegal and I want people to think it's tobacco.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Double thanks, many of us also don’t appreciate that smell either. In some cases it smells worse. It took a surprising number of years for my kids to be able to distinguish weed from skunk, when they were little

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

I also do that as a smoker! I doubt I'm very intimidating tho, so it's just to make sure I'm not bothering people with my smoke. Bonus if it makes them more comfortable for other reasons.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)

If you’re a big guy and you find yourself walking behind a woman at 2am AND, unlike anon, you‘re not a complete sociopath, you have two options in a nutshell. One, you move your ass and overtake, walking fast. Two, you change the side of the road. Both minor inconveniences.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 1 week ago (1 children)

just not changing pace is good enough in my opinion, that makes it look like he was actually chasing her

if he takes the same road and she is scared it's more of a she problem since he's just going home

imo the solution is just not to do anything sketchy, and teach younger people what's right and wrong, so that the problem can get solved with a better society in the future

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

imo the solution is just not to do anything sketchy, and teach younger people what's right and wrong, so that the problem can get solved with a better society in the future

Ah yes, why didn't my parents or their grandparents think to teach their kids that rape and murder is wrong!? It's all so clear now!!!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If the current state of America is any indication, plenty of people didn't teach their kids that

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I think some people do fucked up shit regardless of what they're taught and it requires a solution that's slightly more complex than "just teach the kids right and wrong".

Whilst I strongly encourage good parenting, you could have the most fucked up parents imaginable and still easily be able to understand why rape and murder isn't a benefit to society.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Doesn't have to be women, I've accidentally startled dudes as well. Being a pretty broad and tall dude I usually only keep my size in mind to keep out of the way or make sure I don't bump into things or hit my head on stuff.

But when I think about it, of course it would be intimidating to run across someone a foot and a half taller and twice your weight. It would be like me being tailed by Shaq in the middle of the night.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Just yell to her you're not going to rape her. Problem solved.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

"I'm not gonna rape you, I'm a little boy"

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

Hear hear! As a bigger guy with a faster pace, I have yet to find a way that doesn’t make everyone uncomfortable while also making me frustrated as hell because I can’t walk at my own pace.

Even worse, I’m probably walking with my dog, who likes an even faster pace, and she’s a rescue who looks scary and isn’t yet well behaved

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Wear a reflective vest. It makes it obvious you're just trying to safely walk your dog, makes you less likely to be hit by a car and signals safety because dangerous people don't usually want to be conspicuous

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If it makes you feel any better, a large person walking with a scary dog seems much less likely to be a psychopath than just a large person by themselves (to me, at least).

Obviously not to say that large people are psychopaths 😂 just that someone with an animal they're caring for doesn't strike me as someone who is going to attack me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

No fair! My cat is at home, so you can't see me snuggle her little face.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Well, who's fault is that now, really?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Nobody's, cat just don't like walks. I can show pics though if you'll just stop running!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That would be hilarious …. I’m not sure I remember how.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Step 1: braid your hair. Two braids to the sides or two pigtails, either works

Step 2: get one of those big swirly lollies

Step 3: ba-dee ba-daa

Left- right -- air time -- right-left -- air time

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I think (as a white dude, so take your grains of salt as you please) that a dog would make you less threatening. Makes it clearer what you're up to, and people bringing their dogs along to mug or rape someone is exceedingly rare.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

talk to your dog

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

(maybe even cursed with a hint of melanin)

That euphemism is a lot worse than just saying "black".

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

me. That's my opinion. Being black is not a curse.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

Awesome! According to me, the person I was talking about, "being cursed with a hint melanin" is an obvious in-joke to other black or mixed people. I'll keep describing myself however I like, and you do the same!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

A curse is a condition that bestows a disadvantage. Being black is not a curse in and of itself, but being black + being in any one of many places around the world today is definitely a curse-esque combination due to racism.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I roll with disadvantage every time I try to avoid people being offended on my behalf for comments I make about myself. Such is my curse as a sarcastic biracial man in modern America.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Maybe you weren't sarcastic? Stop being so judgemental.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm not being judgemental. I literally told you to continue using and disliking words as you saw fit. You're the only one that seems upset.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're not as good at sarcasm as you think. That's irony by the way.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Once again, you're the only one that seems to be having an issue getting what I said. Seems more a you problem.

Just take the L and move on dude. It's really not that big of a deal. It's ok to make mistakes. I don't really care that you tried checking me on language I used to describe myself, like I said it happens all the time, but this constant badgering is kinda sad. I'd already completely forgotten this entire interaction happened by the time I opened every single one of your responses. It's not that serious.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The irony is that I was being sarcastic and you didn't understand the sarcasm of me arguing that I know what you ment better than yourself - As a reply to a comment where you explained yourself in no unsure terms. I didn't have a problem with your statement at all, but now I'm starting to tire of your boneheadedness. But I'll move on. I won't interact with you again so you should be at peace. Good day to you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

The irony is that I was being sarcastic and you didn't understand the sarcasm of me arguing that I know what you ment better than yourself

Are you sure that your little brother didn't send it from your phone? 😂 Christ buddy. You have a good one too.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

I prefer "of coloredness"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

this doesn't just go on gender lines either. i am tall and broad and probably scare people, especially women, in the dark. i hope my appearance at least protects me from being assaulted as well... no one asks for ur gender, when they see u walking around at night.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

I've never even considered this perspective before. It's frustrating enough for guys to get lumped in with shitty guys, but to be a woman lumped in with shitty guys, that's gotta be aggravating as hell.

I'd wager you're probably right, though; you've probably got a better buffer against weirdos than a dainty little flower might.